Monday, January 25, 2010

The Rights Of Children Upon The Parents

"Mothers should feed their children for two whole years (that is) for those who wish to complete the suckling term, the cost of their food and clothing on equitable terms is upon the father of the child."
(AL Qur'an surah Al-Baqarah 2:233)


Last Saturday night, we went to masjid for aqeeqah.
Aqeeqah is one of the children's rights upon the parents.

Here are some others of children's right upon parents, as following:

  • We should do Aqeeqah for our newborn child if we can afford it.

    Aqeeqah refers to the animal slaughtered as a sacrifice for a newborn child.

    ’Aa’ishah, Umm Karz, Asmaa’ Bint Yazeed, and Ibn ’Abbaas (y), all reported that Allaah’s Messenger (S) said: "The Aqeeqah is two sheeps for the male child, and one for the female." [There is no harm whether they be male or female animals.]

  • We should give our children a good name.

    Abdullah ibn Abbas (R.A.) relates that the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said "It is also a claim of the child on his father that he gives him a good name and teaches him good manners."

    In another hadeeth, the Prophet Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said "on the Day of Resurrection, you will be called out by your name and the name of your father. -The call will be:- so and-so, son of so-and-so, therefore, give good names."

  • We should do circumcised when they are young.

  • We should teach how to read and memorize Al Qur'an.

    The sisters should listen to Al Qur'an when the baby is still in womb after 4 months.
    The child will quite beacuse of listening Al Qur'an.

    The first thing the baby should hear when born is Allah's name, the Adzan. Father should make adhan with soft voice.

  • We should teach them about our deen.

    We should bring them to masjid and let them hear about Jannah (paradise) and Jahanam (hell),so they will have their heart to our deen.

    Most of the kids do not know about haram and halal, they only think about enjoyment.

  • We should teach them to make doa for their parents.

    Allah will not punish us when our children make doa for their parents.

    "Rabbighfirli wa li wa lidayya warhamhuma kama rabbayani saghira"
    [Oh Allah! Bestow upon my parents mercy as they cherished us in childhood.]

  • We should order them to do salah so they will fear of Allah.

  • We should make doa for our children, too.

  • We should control the TV, the game, and any other playstation.

  • We should ask our children to read together Islamic books at home.
    Alhamdulillah, this is what we always try to do with our children. We can make a small halaqah regulary with our children.
    We should try to read Al Qur'an and Islamic books for 5 to 15 minutes everyday.
    Insha Allah, our children will be a good Muslim in the future with Allah's bless.

These are some of the children's rights upon the parents that Sheikh gave on lecture that Saturday night.
Next week, insha Allah, we are going to masjid for another invitation on aqeeqah.

May Allah always bless our children. Ameen.


  1. agree...a child's right should not be denied, yet parents these days are so obsessed with the worldly education & secular school syllabus that should be mastered by a child.

    i've expressed my feelings on this in my blog:



    would appreciate if i can get some comments from u.

    anyway, wondering if u do know any ruling on the issue of naming a child. does it have to have an arabic name of good nature? or its ok to give a name from a chinese, malay, maori root, ensuring the meaning is still of a good nature.

  2. Assalamualaikum sister Miya,

    Thank you for visiting.
    I did visit your bloq, it's very inspiring. Alhamdulillah.

    As far as I know that about naming our children, the name should have good meaning. Allah will call our name in the Day of Judgement.
    If I have all boys, I will give their name them with the Prophet's name.
    I love all the Prophets and Companions'name.